"If I can't be in charge, why 'play'?" This is vintage ENTJ,
who are natural "generals" and, in that they are outgoing, assertive, logical
and decisive, the foregoing statement may be stated aloud (with a
CAPITAL A), with or without tact.
The ENTJ cannot NOT lead and do not find their time well spent if
they cannot do so. So get over it. If you must
work with (gently put!) the ENTJ, you need to prepare to interact with
(gently put! Some would say "yield") and prepare for blunt (gently
put! Some would say "bombastic"!) language. This is not to
say that ALL ENTJs are unequivocally blunt. Some do speak with tactfulness
and charm. Still, prepare for bold truth as they perceive it to be.
To oppose them is to risk cold, methodical debate or censure...publicly
and without remorse.
ENTJs are natural thinkers and planners. There is always a
plan going on somewhere in the recesses of their minds. Conceptualizing
is natural and they have a drive to completion once they have made the
decision to "go for it". From there, any obstacle is not one to "go
around" but to "go THROUGH"! The concept is such a reality that ENTJs
are not easily dissuaded. But, if there is not the insight, maturity
and intellectual capacity to thoroughly think through and independently
assess, many of them have many concepts in an ENTJ graveyard marked "did
not pan out". And the one who deigns to offer some criticism - no
matter how practical or well meant - will be the recipient of some boldly
and withering retort. Many of them, however, do have concepts that
were and are imminently successful.
"Interpersonal" is neither a need nor a requirement for ENTJs.
"Bedside manner" is not in their repertoire. "Impersonal" as
a characterizing adjective can almost never be overstated in describing
ENTJs. They are among the most resolute, unyielding, implacable of
all the types. Hence, they make great marshals and generals, able
to look at the big picture unflinchingly and totally willing to pay any
price with lives in order to WIN. And once a decision is made, if
it didn't pan out, there is no looking back. "That's life."
Descriptions of ENTJs sound harsh, but they are the premiere realists
and, in fact, do not admire emotion as part of the equation of doing "what
has to be done". And, we must all admit, there are those times when
something - such as going to battle - has to be done and we all want someone
who can be intelligently, maturely and totally objective focused on the
no-win situation. They fully recognize that, in war, people HAVE
to die; that is a fact not to be quarrelled with; that is not a choice;
so that is already decided; so let's get on with the big plan and get it
over with. We all volunteered for this so...
Admiration and popularity are not sought anyway; respect would be
more like it and is deserved by one who is willing to unflinchingly face
the hardest issues of life - responsibility for the lives of others [it
is a documented fact that soldiers find the ENTJ general most inspiring
and will follow them to give the ultimate sacrifice if need be] - or life's
other very unpleasant tasks.